“What you think of yourself is much more important than what other people think of you.”
Self-respect is a tool that allows you to be your true self. By having self-respect you not only develop a better relationship with who you are but others are forced to do the same. Think of having self respect as being a rock in a windstorm, the wind doesn’t tell the rock where to of and instead has to maneuver and bend around the rock.
In life, it is so easy to just be what you are needed to be. Its easier to let others tell you what to do and how to live and let that responsibility lie in someone else’s hands.
Having self-respect is hard work. Standing your ground for yourself and your beliefs can and will be difficult. People will think you have changed and try to mold you back into what was most convenient for them.
Don’t let them. You are the owner of your brain and body and you are the only person who has to live as you. Nobody else will ever have your exact life, thoughts, likes and dislikes so don’t cloud your own beauty with the wants of others.
If you need some help learning how to respect yourself so others know how to treat you, try some of the ways listed below;
- Get in touch with yourself. You have to slow down and take a moment to appreciate who you are. Listen to what your heart and mind tell you. Take notice of what naturally grabs your attention without you trying. Self-respect is all about knowing who you are and standing up for that person inside you.
- Do more for yourself than for others. You can’t pour from an empty cup and you can’t give to others what you don’t have. Self-respect for yourself means that you acknowledge that you are important and take care of yourself first.
- Decide your own life. Parents, teachers, friends and the media have tried our entire lives to tell us how to look, where to live and work, who to date and what to feel. Take yourself back and be honest about what you want to happen in your own life. Respect your true desires and fight the outside noises…not yourself.
- Stop comparing yourself. Everyone is different and out life is made up just for us. Being concerned about what someone else did or didn’t do and has or doesn’t have does nothing but waste time that could have been better spent on our own self improvement. Your happiness meter will drastically improve once you focus on yourself.
- Forgive yourself and others for things that have gone wrong. Self-respect is realizing the you aren’t perfect, but that you are perfectly imperfect. You will make mistakes and so will others. Let go of things that you have done that you aren’t proud of and let go of things other people have done that are out of your control. Holding onto hurt and trying to be perfect only set you up for future disappointment.
- Take care of yourself. When you respect yourself, deep down you know what you truly need. Listen to that voice, and trust your body. Treat your mind and body like a temple because its the only one you will ever have. Cherish it, nourish it and it will be good back to you.
Once you start respecting yourself, you learn how to respect others. You realize that we are all people and in this world together and we must make it work. When you respect others, you give them permission to respect themselves.
If you are on a journey to self-respect and have anything you would like to share, please leave a comment below. Thanks!